{"id":860,"date":"2007-04-24T08:46:53","date_gmt":"2007-04-24T08:46:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/10.131.168.108\/wordpress\/?p=860"},"modified":"2014-01-04T03:17:18","modified_gmt":"2014-01-04T03:17:18","slug":"860","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/2007\/04\/24\/860\/","title":{"rendered":""},"content":{"rendered":"<p><font size=\"5\">Why men can&#8217;t make women happy:<\/font><\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">We don&#8217;t know what we want<\/span>&nbsp;<\/li>\n<ul>\n<li>Gail&#8217;s comment on yesterday&#8217;s post reminded me of this.&nbsp; She admitted that she struggles to appreciate DeWayne&#8217;s help sometimes because it makes her feel like she failed to get something done that was her responsibility to do.&nbsp; <\/li>\n<li>I have been in the same place.&nbsp; In fact, Eric commented recently that he hasn&#8217;t helped more because he was afraid I&#8217;d take it to mean I wasn&#8217;t doing a good enough job.&nbsp; I had to admit that it was possible I would react that way.&nbsp; And I&#8217;ve even seen my mom do this with ironing my dad&#8217;s shirts.<\/li>\n<li>So, I guess, if women complain when men don&#8217;t help out and then take it wrong when they do, it&#8217;s no wonder a man can&#8217;t figure out how to make us happy&#8230;we don&#8217;t even know what will work!  <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<li><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">We don&#8217;t communicate the same way<\/span>&nbsp; <\/li>\n<ul>\n<li>When we were engaged or newly married, I asked Eric what was one thing women really need to know about men.&nbsp; His answer: Men say exactly what they mean.&nbsp; He explained that whatever words come out of a man&#8217;s mouth are exactly the words that he meant to say (no more, no less) and that they will also assume that the words coming out of a woman&#8217;s mouth are exactly what she meant.<\/li>\n<li>Of course, the problem here is obvious.&nbsp; Women almost never mean exactly and only the words that come out of their mouths.&nbsp; We have multiple layers of subtext for every sentence, every word, every noise we make.&nbsp; Sometimes I think we don&#8217;t even know everything we&#8217;re trying to communicate!<\/li>\n<li>Thus, if a man says, &#8220;Where do you want to go for dinner?&#8221; and the woman replies, &#8220;I don&#8217;t care,&#8221; he&#8217;s going to assume she really doesn&#8217;t care.&nbsp; And we all know, that is rarely true!&nbsp; We really do have a preference, but we want him to just know us so well that he can choose the restaurant we really want.&nbsp; Uh&#8230;fat chance!&nbsp; <\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Poor men&#8230;it&#8217;s a good thing they love us anyway!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why men can&#8217;t make women happy: We don&#8217;t know what we want&nbsp; Gail&#8217;s comment on yesterday&#8217;s post reminded me of this.&nbsp; She admitted that she struggles to appreciate DeWayne&#8217;s help sometimes because it makes her feel like she failed to &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/2007\/04\/24\/860\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-860","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=860"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2827,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/860\/revisions\/2827"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=860"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=860"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/elhogue.com\/shannah\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=860"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}