Days in the Life

Last week, I had a head cold that wiped out my attention span. I felt fine, for the most part, but couldn’t focus on anything for any length of time. Also, in that week, I had dinner guests on 3 different days and a family birthday party here on Saturday. Good times.

On Saturday, we had Megan’s birthday party. She is five years of crazy fun. Will do another Megan post at some future time, but the gathering went very well. My grandparents came down. Grandma told Pam that she was there with her dad (“That old guy,” she called Grandpa), and she told Grandpa on the drive home that they’d been at a Cathcart reunion all day. Megan got everything she wanted, including an Anna costume, complete with wand and shoes. And she helped me decorate her cake, which wasn’t my best offering, but she loved it. So that was all that mattered.

This week was the Zanesville Kids consignment sale, so I had to prep that, and MOPS, on Monday. We’re still having issues with set up, so I took all 4 from the bus to ZCMA and set up myself (30 min. prep + 1 hour drive). But they had fun, and it went fine. But I am not happy that I have to do the setup myself pretty much all year.

Anyway, Tuesday was MOPS and more prep. I was beat.

Wednesday, we dropped off the consignment stuff and celebrated Megan’s actual birthday. She got a princess backpack on her birthday, and she asked me before bed if she “could go to school tomorrow.” She was deeply saddened when I told her no. Poor kid. Next August is a long time away. 🙂

Today, I cleaned. I cleaned the kitchen, the dining room, swept the floor, picked up all the trash. I did some laundry. I edited. In the afternoon, I washed toys that were dirty and mildewed. I also washed the stroller and two large coolers that were too gross to use. I tidied and made supper and cleaned up supper and Eric did homework with kids. Then baths and prayers and bed. A day in the life for sure.

Other events of note from today. I forgot to make the twins’  lunches this morning. Oops. I remembered at 8:15. Between then and 8:30 when we had to go up to meet the bus, Megan let the puppies (accidentally) into the basement THREE times. Three. Seriously?

Also, tonight, Timmy peed in the potty for the first time. He asked to go when I finished. Would not take no for an answer. Pulled down his pants and asked for me to take off his diaper. I lifted him up and (it took him a minute)…he peed! He was very proud. I made a big deal of it. He got a Starburst for doing it. Of course, I still have no intention of potty training the kid yet. Not.gonna.happen. But hey, if he’s going to demand a chance, I’ll let him try. Oh, the joy…

Day 24: The Cast

Today, the cast came off. The second one, actually. The pink one they put on after the purple one that went on after the splint. Yes. Today, exactly 2 months after the day the arm was broken, the cast came off.

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It was a long wait. It was just a fiberglass covering to protect a healing place, but it was hard on us. She was limited in what she could do for herself (though she found a hundred ways to adjust and live the life she wanted – opening marker lids with her toes is my favorite example). I was limited by what she could do. How she could play. What she could wear. How to put a shirt on. How to take a bath.

In so many ways, this cast defined us for two months. And yet. Today, the x-ray showed a beautiful amount of healing. The doctor was very impressed with the size of the ‘callous,’ the bulge on the bone where it is healing itself. It’s protecting itself, as if it knows Megan’s tendency to push harder, pull longer, and dive head first into mud puddles. A month ago, we could see the slivers of new bone. It was heal-ing. Today, we saw new bone (a new, thick cortex, he called it), nearly healed.

It was balm to the soul for this worn-down momma. We are free!

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Day 7: Megan

So this is an easy one. Today, Megan turned 4 years old. She’s a spunky, full of life little thing who adds adventure and charm to our family. She will find any dirt or sandbox or mud puddle within a 2 mile radius and happily splash and squoosh and smear it all over herself. There is no such thing as keeping her shirts clean.

But she is funny. Witty, even. By the time she’s a teenager, she’ll have a wicked grasp of humor and sarcasm and, well, wit. For now, the tiny seeds are visible, and I’m trying not to train her too early towards my own (at times) lack of tact.

She is loving having the twins in school now, despite the summer’s meltdowns over the coming change. We play games. We cook together. She loves to point that “she’s the only kid” so she gets to do [fill in the blank]. Obviously, Timmy is completely discounted from her equation there, but she is right that I’m not going to let him dump the flour into the bowl. So as usual, she’s pretty much right!

Megan is hard to capture in words. And she’s a pusher. She grabs everything by the horns and will NOT let go. She is stubborn. She is strong-willed. She is smart. OH.MY.WORD. Smart. But she’s a snuggler. A needer of verbal affirmation. A tender-hearted little thing who just colors our world with wonder.

Happy Birthday, Megan. You are truly one of a kind.

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Poor, Poor Meg

So on Sunday night, we made our very first visit to the ER. Honestly, I’m surprised we made it this long. Seriously. Meg will be four in October, and I cannot believe we’ve never been there before. But anyway, we went.

At about 6:30, Eric came carrying Meg down the hill towards me, her arm cradled in her lap. She was crying. He looked very concerned. I touched the arm underneath the bones, and I knew. One glance at Eric, and we both agreed. That arm was broken.

So he put her in the van for me while I grabbed by stuff and drove for town. I talked to Meg some and said a prayer for us, that we could get there in good time and for grace, for  doors to be opened to deal with the arm quickly and easily. And really, the entire night was one grace after another. I had no idea.

As I drove, I called our mothers and let them know, realized Meg had actually dozed off for a few minutes, and got to the ER about 7:15. Another family was at the check-in desk when I carried her in. They were sent back through the doors I had just come in, to the waiting room on the other side of the entrance. I came to the desk.

Me: Hi, I’m pretty sure my daughter broke her arm.

Check-in lady: Okay. Her name? (We went through all the basic info and got her bracelet put on her right arm). Okay, then why don’t you sit down right there.

She pointed at a single chair against the wall just inside the door. On this side of the entrance. She poked her head into the triage room, said something I couldn’t hear and then popped back out. “Okay, have a seat right in here, and we’ll get you started.” She gestured into the triage area, not five feet in front of me. Um…okay.

I moved into the chair inside the triage room, and the nurse and PA started talking. The word “deformity” got used more than once. The PA took Megan’s pulse while the nurse got some basic information. The PA went to another computer while the nurse took Meg’s temperature. She said, “Okay, Mom, that arm is definitely broken, we just need to know how bad.” Um…okay.

With that, they took us back to an open room. The only open room. The one, I realized, the triage ladies were saying had just come open as we got there. They’d put someone’s name on it from the waiting room, but bumped them back to put Meg in next. We were literally shown to a room in less than 5 minutes.

I was so grateful, too. I stopped to thank Jesus for answering my prayer. I remembered to pray for whoever’s name had been bumped down the list so Megan could go first. but mostly, I was just grateful the arm was actually broken and that we had done the right thing in coming.

Our nurse, Erin, followed us in almost immediately and started getting Meg some Motrin for the pain. She asked me a couple of questions and said the x-ray had already been ordered so we just had to wait for that. Seriously, they ordered the x-ray before we were even in the room. More grace.

We spent the next hour or so waiting, but never more than 20 or so minutes between someone’s arrival. Megan played my iPad and only cried if someone had to bump her arm. She was a CHAMP. Apparently trauma makes her mellow, not spastic. Another grace. The x-ray techs came and took two films. They took a top-down shot, and then moved the arm so the hand was palm-down, and as soon as they did, I could see it. Bones are not supposed to be like that.

After they finished, we waited for the orthopedic doctor to see and weigh in on the next step. Another doctor came in to check for other sprains or bruises…nothing (grace). Erin, the nurse, came back once or twice to check on us. Megan was very happy to play game after game on the iPad. She talked to anyone who talked to her. And they did so great with her. They spoke to her like a little person. But a little one. She told them what happened (“My leg tripped me.”) and where it hurt exactly. She thanked people as they left. They were all incredibly impressed, but honestly…that’s just my Meg.

Finally, the orthopedic guy came in. He showed me the x-rays, and confirmed what we all knew. The ulna was broken, a jagged point clearly not where it should be (but not through the skin either). But the radius had bowed, not broken, because her 3-year-old bones aren’t totally calcified yet. That’s what made that second x-ray look so bad. So the good news was that the break was nowhere near the growth plates (grace), she hadn’t broken both bones (grace), and he could manipulate it back in place that night. He recommended conscious sedation, which I was happy to approve, because he said oral sedatives “only gave me one chance and she’ll hate me forever.” Ha!

Anyway, to do the procedure, she had to have an IV. So we waited a few minutes for Erin to come back for that. She brought another nurse, Mike, with her. They talked to Megan about everything, and she let them do it all. Only when they actually poked her elbow did she cry. And she sobbed. But she didn’t flinch or pull or kick or anything. Mike held her arm just in case, but pretty soon they had it in and taped in place. And then Meg’s only concern was how she could play the iPad with both arms messed up (she quickly figured out she could still bend the right elbow).

After a bit, we were taken back to another room for the sedation and procedure. We put Meg in a wheelchair, and as the nurse turned right, I happened to glance left towards the entrance and there, just being brought to a room, was the couple who had been standing at the desk when I came in. It was two hours later, and they were just being seen. Thank you, Jesus, was all I could think.

We turned and then turned again down another hall of curtained rooms, and just as we got to the back room where things would go down, I heard, “Shannah?” Behind me came Becca Geyer, a nurse who was basically volunteering on the floor that night to prep for picking up more ER shifts in the future. She’s also the wife of Geoff Geyer, one of Eric’s best friends from college. Big-time Grace.

Becca hung with us for most of the next hour. She helped them get things set up. She and Mike watched the numbers and charted things. She explained stuff to me. She got me a sandwich and some water. (Another huge grace) She even held Meg’s arm while the actual procedure was done. I cannot even tell you how much it meant for a familiar face to be with us that night.

And the other ER personnel were just as great. Mike put all the monitors on Meg, and she ate up his explanations. Her thumb had a light on it. She got five stickers on her chest and belly. The orthopedic doctor explained what they would do, and then we sat for a few minutes waiting for the permission papers to come. I asked how he decided on orthopedics. He said, “Do you want the long version or the short?” I laughed, “Well, I’m gonna be here for a while.” He gave me the brief version, but it was interesting to hear what had gotten him to this moment with my child.

We had a few minutes of downtime in the back room, and I watched Meg’s ellies (her stuffed elephant rattles) sitting on the bed while she played the iPad. That was the only time I got nervous. Just how crazy things had gone, how fast things had gone, how I was sitting in a back room of the ER with an oblivious Meg, and so grateful it wasn’t worse. Still sedation is sedation, and for a few minutes, I was a bit overwhelmed.

And then things got rolling again. Meg answered all questions, but mostly she just played her iPad. The orthopedic guy was watching her play, amazed at how she was reading and doing the matching games so perfectly well. Yep, that’s my Meg. Then Mike put the morphine in. The doctor laughed, “Mike, man, you’re messing up her score with that stuff.” Sure enough, she couldn’t quite control her fingers, and it was kind of funny to watch.

They finished the sedation and started the process. There were 6 adults with large machines surrounding a big bed on which Meg was lying flat. It was a little surreal, but they worked well together. The x-ray techs came back and Becca held the arm while the doctor moved everything into place and put on the splint. They checked with the x-ray to see that all was well, and then wrapped the splint up.

After that, it was just a waiting game. Meg came out of sedation easily. She lifted her head a bit, lifted it a second time and said, “Hey mom, know what I see?” “No what?” “A stop sign.” Sure enough on the door across the room, 10 or 12 feet away, was a stop sign sticker. I knew she’d be fine then. I did catch her a couple of times just looking at her arm strangely, trying to figure out when the splint had appeared. But she was quickly back to the iPad while we waited for discharge. Oddly enough, that was the longest wait of the night because they had to have a pediatric sling brought down from the other hospital campus, but finally, two new nurses came (Mike joined them later) to unhook everything and get us discharged. Megan was very clear to the nurses that “her doctor” had put all those things on her (meaning Mike, of course). She was very proud of all her stickers and things. Then as I was talking to one nurse, Meg looked over at her.

Meg: What’s your name?

Nurse: I’m Jessie.

Meg: It’s nice to meet you Jessie.

Jessie: It’s nice to meet you, too, Megan. (she looked at me amazed…yep, that’s my Meg)

Megan: turning slowly to the other nurse, “And what’s your name?”

Nurse: I’m Jean. It’s nice to meet you.

Megan: It’s nice to meet you, too.

Then she went back to her iPad for a bit longer. FInally Mike, Jessie, and Jean had her all charted, unhooked, and in the sling. She thanked them all, again, as we left. As we exited the ER and headed to the car, I realized it was only 11:30 pm. Another grace.

As I was putting her in the car, Meg informed me that she wanted to watch Frozen when we got home. “Well, okay, maybe tomorrow morning,” I said. “No, when we get home. They told me, I could watch Frozen when I got home.” Right…just following doctor’s orders.

Anyway, we got home about midnight and got Megan something to eat. Earlier, she’d wanted to know when they were bringing her food, and she did get a purple popsicle on her way out. But overall, she did beyond well. The nurses and everyone were beyond impressed with her, and I could just see Jesus taking care of us the entire night. We’re now a few days past, and she’s itchin’ to get her cast so she can DO stuff again. But for our first broken bone and trip to the ER, I could not have asked for a better adventure.

One Crazy Weekend (Starting School)

I doubt any future “start of school” adventure we have will ever be able to top this year’s craziness. Just sayin’.

Kindergarten is our first adventure of its kind. We’ve never done preschool. My kids haven’t had a church nursery for over a year. We have done life together, up close and personal. And now, suddenly, my two Bigs are heading off into a brand-new thing.

I was/am so excited for them. Seriously. I sat in the parents’ orientation meeting, looking around the classroom and just knowing how much they will love it. Of course, I’m also aware of how exhausted they’re going to be for a while, going from nothing to all-day-every-day Kindergarten, but it is just what they need. My tears were happy tears. They are ready, and I’m so proud of the little people I get to send to Mrs. Cullins’s class.

So on Friday, we went in to meet the teacher, drop off our school supplies, and do a quick assessment to see where they are. And, yeah, they’re totally ready for Kindergarten. Alex is probably going to have a speech IEP for a while, but as far as knowledge goes – they are there. No big surprise. We are ready.

Then the weekend crazy hit. MOPS retreat on Friday night and the first half of Saturday. Eric watching kiddos. Writing like a mad woman any spare second I can get. Stayed up too late for a couple of nights. Trying to enjoy my kids and not put them off on this last weekend before school. Eric needing to get outside work done. More writing. Trying to get to the paperwork in the twins’ school folder – read it all, sign stuff, put it back in the right place in the folder.

(Side note: the twins each had a get-to-know-me paper for us to fill out. I did one for Megan at the same time. Erin’s favorite activity: shopping. What makes Alex happy: getting a new video game. What makes Megan sad: being left behind. Poor kid.)

Anyway, Saturday turned to Sunday. My in-laws left on vacation right after church. Eric went out to lunch with his brothers while I did lunch with the kids, then they rested/napped while I wrote some more. The guys came back, worked on the house, and then Alan headed back to do feeding. Just after 6, Eric headed over with the big 3 in the tractor. They were going to help Alan unload hay. I was going to have some space to write until it was time to throw a supper on the table. Great!

Just before 6:30, I saw a car come into the driveway. The twins came running down the hill to the door, hollering, “Megan fell down and Daddy thinks she broke her arm!” Um…what?!? He carried her down, she cradling her left arm against her belly. I felt it briefly. Yep. Broken.

So, I took Megan to the ER while Eric stayed with the kids. We got home about midnight (the events of our trip in will have to be a second post) and got to bed about 1:00 am.

At 7:00 am, Alex tumbled into our bed, ready for the day. Erin wasn’t far behind. We got ready for school. I made lunches and filled out all the details and paperwork that should’ve been done the night before. We were making good time. We walked up the hill…and waited for just a few minutes when our neighbor at the top of the hill stuck his head out the door. “The bus has already gone by,” he said. “What?!? When?” “About 10 minutes ago.”

Great. So we missed the bus on the first day of school. Thankfully, we had plenty of time to get there. Back down the hill we went and got into the van. I drove us up to school (there’s a bridge out causing all sorts of issues, but that’s a rant for another day), and got there just at the perfect time. I let the kids out and walked them to the corner of the building so they could see where the other kids were going in. They headed that way, and I hopped back in the van to get out of the way for other parents. I stopped briefly to chat with another mom, when we were interrupted.

Other mom: What? Does she need your mom? (Alex’s voice in the background.) Okay. (to me) I think Erin is crying.

Great. So I park and jog over. She is standing on the sidewalk, big tears on her face. The one who has been SO excited for school was suddenly struck by the magnitude of what she was about to do, and she got scared. I gave her a hug, and she cried on my shoulder (and this is where my tears started, too).

“Do you need me to walk in with you?” She nodded yes, so we joined the mass influx of children and I got them to the hallway. Alex walked right down, never looked back. Erin started down, and another lady who was standing there came to her to make sure she got to her room. I’m sure it took her all of 8 minutes to be excited again once inside the classroom, but for those few moments, it was just too much.

And it was a bit much for me, too. A broken arm, the ER, not enough sleep, my twins off to Kindergarten, the stress and drama just came crashing down. I’m sure everyone thought I was one of those moms who just boo-hoos because she can’t bear to let her kids go. Nope. But there’s only so much one can handle and my Erin-girl’s tears put me over the edge.

Anyway, I got home finally and Eric had turned on Frozen for Megan. I told him about Erin’s tears. He told me Megan had made him read her The Giving Tree (which we can barely get through on a good day!). There was a minute or two of sadness, and then back to the rush.

Eric hung with the littles while I got Meg’s prescription filled and went to the grocery. I scheduled the appointment for her to get her cast. I called the school to find out when I might expect their bus to show (it was 20 minutes late). I kept on writing furiously when I could while Eric worked outside some more. The kids got home, and we finally made it to the end of the first day of Kindergarten. Praise Jesus.

It was not the start I was planning for. But it was an adventure…that’s for sure. And hard as it was, God was working and helping and making a way. But hopefully, the rest of the year will be much less crazy!